I've got to say that just reading the verse I don't really have any thoughts. It seems more than a bit beyond me and extremely paradoxical. Dyer agrees and urges one to be able to move away from the typical Western thought that things must be this or that. I can embrace it to a point as I view my deities much in the same way - as both creators and destroyers, both terrible and benign. For all faces of the goddess are merely facets of The Goddess, as with The God.
The Tao is the macrocosm within the microcosm, but the defining of it in any way negates it for it limits it. There is something to be said for "letting divinity" take over and it's something I know I struggle with. I have a need and desire to control, a wish to make things happen and in doing so and trying so hard many times I overdo it and therefore block my own manifestation.
I think of Nike's slogan - "Just do it". It reminds of what I just read, about the difference between desiring and allowing. That when you desire it begins to let the allowing take place. The difference between wanting to go to sleep and going to sleep strikes me. The trying almost negates the doing.
I'm proud to say, as I get to the section of advising on how to take the advice of the first verse in context of modern living, that I do generally allow myself to experience the mystery of life. While I can be insatiable in my questioning and desiring to know more information there are a number of things that I do not question but rather merely experience them as they are. He mentions allowing relationships to just be rather than trying so hard to make them work. I see merit in this but also have cautious thoughts about it. One shouldn't try too hard to make something work - as it ought to work on it's own, but in order to do even that one must have an appreciation for what they have and be present in the now about it. If you go on wishing things would be a certain way all the time you will watch your life pass you by and miss out on what you do have.
Then there is the whole concept of releasing the need to name and label and categorize everything. I oscillate between this need and not. While realistically my religious practices can't be solidly predefined, there is no one word that describes what I do to everyone, there are definite parts to it that may be labelled in some way. I know that it's partially habit that we seek to name things and then I think of the concept of status. We all strive to "be" something/one to others and ourselves. Beyond our given names we call ourselves many things, from jobs, to talents, to our relations with others...I am an artist, I am funny, I am a sister. And while all these things may easily be true, not one is the whole of who we are. When we label ourselves we negate ourselves...
Finally the advice for the reading is to note a time when someone irritates you - and I immediately think of our roommates/landlord - and to just allow the feeling to be, as well as letting it go. Letting this person be as they are, releasing your wish for them to be elsewhere or do elsewise. To note where the feeling of irritation physically manifests and just flow with it.
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Reflecting after a few days...8/3/2011
I re-read the verse as given by Dyer but I can't say that it makes more sense to me now. I then read another version that named this verse "Transcendence". That makes it make a bit more sense. It seems to be urging you to move beyond certain habits to a higher place, to a place closer to the Tao itself.
Reading back over what I wrote in my original response I note that I mentioned having a problem with control. Thinking to just now when I had to let my little boy go to see his paternal grandmother I definitely can attest to it. I had a long list of don't do this and don't do that, and this is what you need to do. Honestly I don't think any of it was unreasonable, it was all based on his habits, temperament, and schedule and if you're not around him you wouldn't know how he is. But to anyone else I'm sure I appear overprotective and controlling.
I see that part of my issue with control is trust. I do not trust that anyone can or will do anything as "right" as me. That no one else is capable of doing the job. This is far from the case though as there are many who do a number of thing and it's easy for several to do something well. It's not like I am the only good mother, just like there is not just one "bad" mother. But the other part of it is a desire for things to be done
my way. I don't want her making choices for him in his care, I don't feel it's her right to do so. I suppose that's part of being a parent. And it's really not even that I don't want any advice as I ask for it all the time, at the very least I ask about the experiences of others.
I read what I said originally about "making relationships work". When I wrote that I was thinking about my romantic relationship with my other half. But applying it to my relationship with my MiL there will be some work needed. Work for her to back off and give me space, work for me to be more tolerant to her. Honestly it isn't my place to dictate to her how she does things, I don't have to concern myself with her or her life one way or another. Having it involve my child makes it sticky however. In one visit at this age she can't possibly do any damage, but it's not right now I'm concerned about. I worry about how he will deal in the future, that she'll get used to "having her way" and start making decisions rather than consulting me later.
Reviewing the advice, thinking about someone who irritates you I immediately think of my MiL. Her presence in my life irritates me. Her insistence to be right all the time, to give advice where I don't want it. In short the fact that she's not like me and doesn't hold the same respect that I do or that I expect. But she's not me (and I really wouldn't want her to be) and to expect her to think like me, to do as I would do or as I would want is ridiculous. I need to live and let live. If she wants to be as she is and it causes me or others to distance themselves from her that's her right and her choice. I can choose to not pay her any mind and to not take anything personal. To see her just as she is - a separate person who has no more importance to me than I allow her to have.
...contemplate yourself being surrounded by the conditions you wish to produce...